Wedding Music, an essential part of your special day
Step 3 – “Choosing Your Musical Agenda”
Welcome to my third blog entry about wedding music. If you missed my first one just click here and get yourself caught up.
First off, I want to say if you are on step 3, CONGRATS! This is where you get to start crafting what your musical itinerary will look like for your amazing day. I affectionately call it “play time”. Remember that this is to be a fun process, but may lead to a tear or two.
Recently I was sitting with a beautiful soon-to-be wedded couple, sipping on a delicious glass of wine, creating their musical agenda and what I love best about this process happened right before my eyes; the couple started to visualize their wedding to music. They completely forgot about their day, dialed into their relationship and the true meaning of this special occasion. It is a magical moment I have had the honor of sharing with many couples.
Music creates lasting memories, what song do you want to pop up on the radio that makes you smile
because that was song played for your first dance?
Okay, so, the following moments are typically what you need to pick music for. I suggest picking a few tunes for each moment from the work you did in “Step 2”, EVEN if you have your heart set on one song. Variety is the spice of life and Step 4 of this blog will dig even deeper into your song selections.
Processional – Depending on if the Groom is already at the altar or is walking in with the bridal party, this can be one or two songs. From my experience, one song is good for the groom and the bridal party. I like to call this,” The Groom’s Song”. Think about what you want to say to your bride to be. If you both are the comic type and want to make people laugh, insert “Highway to Hell” here 🙂 A song from any one of your columns could work for this section.
Check out my version of “Can’t Help Falling In Love With You” here.
Bridal Entrance – I always consider this the “stop and stare” moment. This is where all eyes are on the bride and, therefore, she should absolutely have her own song. It’s all about her in this moment. I encourage my brides to:
- Think about what would they like to say to their forever man
- Think about the song being your thoughts out loud
- Or, perhaps, what you may write in your journal
Ex. Dear Diary..”At last my love has come along, my lonely days are over and life is like a song”
Unity Candle/Sand Ceremony – Some couples choose to have this for many reasons, whether it’s blending two families together or creating a symbolic figure to re-ignite on anniversaries. If this is in your ceremony I would suggest an instrumental piece as there may be talking while this is going on. If your heart is stuck on a particular song that has lyrics, why not ask the musicians to play the instrumental version? Ask yourselves what this particular moment in the wedding means to you? This could be an opportunity for a song from your classic/traditional column.
Signing – I usually encourage an instrumental for this as it tends to not take too long, and you want to have good flow. Another cool option may be to have someone read just the lyrics of a verse, chorus or even a poem at this point, or have someone you know write their own poem. A song from any one of your columns could work here.
Recessional – The walk down the aisle, after the big smooch, hand in hand celebrating your new partnership. Of all the ceremonies I have performed at, this is usually a joyous, upbeat song that gets played in its entirety as it also plays as the guests exit. If you had a fun column, maybe a song from there, or an upbeat alternative tune. The tune my husband and I had was ,“All You Need Is Love” a hip Beatles tune.
At any point if you are feeling overwhelmed, it is best to take a break,
sleep on it, start again the next day
Bride and Groom Entrance – Yes…there is also a song for this. In most cases the newlyweds have gone for pictures, meanwhile the guests are being entertained at the cocktail party. After this has been completed, everyone settles into the reception and anxiously awaits the couple’s entrance. The MC announces the new couple and BAM another song, maybe accompanied by a choreographed dance? Take a look at your fun column or perhaps an up-tempo romantic tune.
First Dance – This first dance is an opportunity for the couple to set the tone or context for how they will show up in life together. This can go in so many directions from a power ballad to a line dance; slow and passionate to all out balls to the wall.
Click here for the The “Electric Slide” Ha! So fun! Bonus points for wearing the outfits 🙂
Some couples take lessons and get their first dance choreographed to perform for their guests. What song do you want to have as your forever first dance? Is it something you laugh about after or have a tear or two when you hear it. Look at your list of tunes and see what really resonates and is true to the authenticity of your relationship. Remember, this is your wedding 🙂
Father/Mother Daughter Dance – Well…this one is usually a tear jerker, this moment can represent so much in 3-5 minutes. Gratitude, love, letting go..I’m getting teary just thinking about this.
It is also an opportunity for the parent to potentially pick the song and surprise the bride as well.
It is such a beautiful opportunity to share gratitude for each other and gently say goodbye..WAAAAAAH! Okay so that’s that lol… Don’t want a tearjerker? Stevie Wonder’s “Isn’t She Lovely” is great for the Father/Daughter Dance
Mother/Son Dance – Same as above..WAAAAAH!
P.S.- Sometimes these last two dances are combined into one song.
Bouquet Toss/Garter Toss – These are usually really fun tunes, a chance where the bride and groom get to really “play”. I have seen a whole other side of the bride when her man is taking off her garter..especially to the tune “You Can Leave Your Hat On”. Sexy!
Alright music lovers, you are almost finished
Next up is Step 4 “What is each song “really” saying?”
P.S.S Another reason why music is so important? It is something that the soon to be bride and groom get to pick together!