Wedding Music, an essential part of your special day
Why is music so important at a wedding?? It’s quite simple really; music sets the emotion and the pace. This essential piece to a wedding event is often undervalued and its’ importance is often forgotten while in the planning stages.
Music brings out emotion that is often difficult to express through words. It sets a tone or creates an ambience for you and your guests. How do you feel when you, the bride, think about that walk down the aisle? Carefully selected musical choices can communicate special feelings about the union, your guests, your significant other, etc….
Music is the gateway to our hearts. It is what connects us and isn’t that what weddings are all about; connection? It isn’t the flowers, the dress, the tuxedos, the limos, etc… It’s not that those things aren’t important; don’t get me wrong, but it seems as though those things become the priority. Music should be included among these important pieces.
So why do so many soon to be newlyweds forget about the music? In my experience it’s because they’re not sure where to begin. And then it becomes last minute and then its, “Well whatever the church organist thinks is best.” This is their special day and they are leaving the one thing that can heighten their emotions, forever leaving memories, up to an organist they may or may not have met? Sorry if i sound so passionate lol but what can i say? Im passionate about relationship and connection.
STEP ONE: So where do you start?
Well everyone has smartphones today which have notes or voice memos, etc… Don’t have one? Click here for Android and here for Apple..Anytime you hear a song that makes you feel something, whether its absolute joy, shivers down your spine, or a tear: WRITE IT DOWN! Or speak into bluetooth voice memo if driving, gotta play it safe! Doesn’t matter the genre, tempo, decade, make note of it. I have sung She’s A Lady (Tom Jones),The Celestials (Smashing Pumpkins), Wonderwall (Oasis) and, yes, even Fishin’ in the Dark (Nitty Gritty Dirt Band) at wedding ceremonies. It’s what the bride and groom felt best represented them and each other in relationship. What’s it all about again? Connection!
Now remember, your homework is just to write down any song that you feel an emotional connection with. Don’t start thinking, yet, what song should be where, first dance, etc; just record them. Have fun and maybe even take a road trip together and play what’s on your ipod…that’s what my hubby and I did 🙂
Next blog post I will talk about Step Two: What to do next with your list.